Holding onto Christmas Magic

I have a confession that may make me seem like a hypocrite.

When it comes to my daughter Brooke I am constantly advocating for people to see beyond her almond eyes. Not to make a snap judgement just because she has Down Syndrome. My daughter is more alike than different and I have high hopes for her and try to hold her to the same standards as her brothers and sister.

And yet…

When it comes to Christmas I hope that her developmental delay will make her believe just a little bit longer than other typical children.

Is that wrong?

Does that undo every bit of advocacy I’ve ever done?

Or am I just a mama who wants to hang on to the magic of Christmas just a little bit longer?

The sound of the feet clattering across the house Christmas morning while little voices shout He came! Santa came! gets me just as excited as the kids! Watching them unwrap their gifts as they chat about how amazing it is that Santa really did know just what was on their lists make my heart fluttery with excitement as the paper and bows fly through the air!

My kids truly believe with all of their hearts that Santa has sent our elf, Hermey, to watch over them during the day and report back every night to make sure every one is on their best behavior.

So I can really be blamed if I want to hold on to that?

Kids grow up so quickly nowadays, every year I sit anxiously wondering if this is the year one of my kids question the magic of Christmas and Santa…

But now I have a chance to hang on to that magic just a little bit longer than other families…

Yet I feel it’s wrong. I feel like maybe I’ve lowered my own expectations of my daughter while constantly begging others to treat her like any other person.

So am I a hypocrite? Or just a mom who wants to keep our children young and innocent as long as possible?

Holly Waligora is a married mother of four young children who only has two hands, which is why if you ever see her in public she’s usually running after one of them.  When at home she can be found hiding in the bathroom with a book under the guise of scrubbing a toilet.  Her family doesn’t quite appreciate her humor, so she loves random strangers to read her words at Holly’s House-Not a Perfect Mom’s Blog.

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10 thoughts on “Holding onto Christmas Magic

  1. I don’t think it’s wrong. The magic of Santa and the kids joy at Christmas is really what makes the day (at least for me, I’m sure someone is going to lecture about the religious etc. etc.)
    When my stepdaughter was growing up it was so much fun, even after she stopped believing I still waited til she went to bed to put presents under the tree and signed them Santa. We both had more fun pretending
    Now it’s just me and the husband in the house and honestly, the morning is kinda lame til we go visit people with kids

  2. I don’t think it’s wrong. My 12 year old that is in 7th grade this year just questioned me about Santa and I reluctantly told her the truth. But she told me that she still wanted to believe. I told her she can I wont tell anyone.

  3. Not wrong at all! I want them ALL to hold onto it for as long as they can. And I often think that maybe having a child with special needs (I have a son with DS who is 4) will give us a “pass” for him on big bad things like drugs and driving around dangerously at all hours of the night. Sometimes I feel like that’s wrong too, but that does not diminish my hopes.

  4. I love this post. My daughter with DS is now 19 and I can still see the magic of Christmas in her eyes. She stopped believing when she was about 14 – despite her older and younger siblings attempt to dissuade her from an early age. But really in truly she is the only one in our family of five who can appreciate Christmas for what it is ..not what it brings under the Christmas tree. Hang on!!

  5. I love this Holly. How did I miss it last week. Ashlyn believed well past everyone else her age and it was the best. I actually had to tell her because I didn’t want her to be extremely upset if someone at school told her first.

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